Spontaneity,
schmontaneity
Buzz-killing as it sounds, you might need to
start scheduling time for intimacy — or at
least committing to once a week, by hook or
by crook (which, bonus, could force you to
get creative). “Ruts beget ruts,” says
Kerner, noting that when
you go without, your body actually becomes
accustomed to lower and lower levels of
testosterone. On the flipside, he
says, couples (not just
parents) who are intimate at least once a
week report better relationships and quality
of life overall.