How well do you know your partner?

   1. I can name my partner's best friends                                                                Yes ___   No__

 2. I know what stresses my partner is currently facing                                          Yes ___   No__

 3. I know the names of some people who have been irritating my partner lately     Yes___   No__

 4. I can tell you some of my partner's life dreams                                                  Yes___   No__

 5. I know my partner's basic philosphy of life                                                        Yes___   No__

 6. I can list the relatives my partner likes the least                                                  Yes___   No__

 7. I feel that my partner knows me pretty well                                                        Yes___   No__

 8. When we're apart, I think fondly of my partner                                                  Yes___   No__

 9. I often touch or kiss my partner affectionately                                                    Yes___   No__

 10. My partner really respects me                                                                         Yes___   No__

 11. There is passion in our relationship                                                                  Yes___   No__

 12. Romance is still part of our relationship                                                           Yes___   No__

 13. My partner appreciates the things I do                                                            Yes___   No__

 14. My partner likes my personality                                                                      Yes___   No__

 15. Our sex life is mostly satisfying                                                                        Yes___   No__

 16. At the end of the day my partner is glad to see me                                           Yes___   No__

 17. My partner is one of my best friends                                                                Yes___   No__

 18. We just love talking to each other                                                                    Yes___   No__

 19. There is lots of give and take (both people have influence) in our discussions     Yes___   No__

 20. My partner listens respectfully even when we disagree                                      Yes___   No__

 21. My partner is usually a great help as a problem solver                                       Yes___   No__

 22. We generally mesh well on basic values and goals in life                                    Yes___   No__


Results for your above test.

15 or more : You have a lot of strengths in your relationship.

8-14:  This is a pivotal time in your relationship. There are strengths you can build upon but there are weaknesses that need your attention.

7 or less: Your relationship may be in serious trouble and could be headed for the rocks. If this concerns you, you probably still value the relationship enough to try to get help.


New York Post article Tuesday Feb. 8, 2005



pas·sion   Audio pronunciation of "passion" ( P )  Pronunciation Key  (pshn)
  1. A powerful emotion, such as love, joy, hatred, or anger.
    1. Ardent love.
    2. Strong sexual desire; lust.
    3. The object of such love or desire.
    1. Boundless enthusiasm: His skills as a player don't quite match his passion for the game.
    2. The object of such enthusiasm: Soccer is her passion.
  2. An abandoned display of emotion, especially of anger: He's been known to fly into a passion without warning.
ro·mance   Audio pronunciation of "romance" ( P )  Pronunciation Key  (r-mns, rmns)
    1. A love affair.
    2. Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people; love: They kept the romance alive in their marriage for 35 years.
    3. A strong, sometimes short-lived attachment, fascination, or enthusiasm for something: a childhood romance with the sea.
  1. A mysterious or fascinating quality or appeal, as of something adventurous, heroic, or strangely beautiful: “These fine old guns often have a romance clinging to them” (Richard Jeffries).